Relationship Check-up

Whether you have been in a relationship a few weeks or several months, take a step back and look at how things are going for you and your partner with this simple test. Try to answer the questions honestly and thoughtfully. Then add up your score to see how to rate your relationship.

My boyfriend or girlfriend is honest with me all the time.

Yes        No        Not sure

I can always talk with my partner about my feelings, ideas and thoughts.

Yes        No        Not sure

I feel confident that my partner and I can work out any problems we face.

Yes        No        Not sure

I respect my partner and know he or she respects me.

Yes        No        Not sure

I know my boyfriend or girlfriend only wants what's best for me.

Yes        No        Not sure

My partner and I have fun when we are together.

Yes        No        Not sure

My partner compliments me and makes me feel good about myself.

Yes        No        Not sure

We both enjoy spending time with other people outside our relationship.

Yes        No        Not sure

I trust my boyfriend or girlfriend to be there for me.

Yes        No        Not sure

I feel safe when I am with my boyfriend or girlfriend.

Yes        No        Not sure


    Your Score

How did you do? Count up the number of yes answers and see where you fit, Any No or Not sure answers point to potential problems in your relationship.

Yes Answers
Nine to Ten: Healthy and Happy
You and your partner have a good foundation for a healthy relationship.

Six to Eight: Working on Getting Better
You have some things going for you but need to focus on adding more positive things to your relationship.

Zero to Five: Need A Second Opinion
You may be in a relationship that is harmful to you. Talk to an adult you trust about your concerns based on your answers to these questions. If you feel you are in an unsafe relationship, call the 24 hotline for help: 1-800-656-HOPE.